Exhaustion. We have all felt it at one point or another. For me, it usually happens when I try to squeeze way too much into one day. As much as I like to think of myself as laid back and relaxed, if you ask anyone close to me, I am basically the opposite of it. I am a total Type A, but I wish I could have more of that bohemian, "go-with-the-flow" attitude. But, alas, that is not me. I need to realize it, and move forward. I like being busy. I like work. I like taking on tasks. This is double edged sword. It means that I get sh*t done, but I also end up taking on way more than I can handle way too often. I compare myself to those super women and men I only see one side of from my Instagram feed, and it can really make one feel pretty lousy. And that is crazy. We really need to stop with all of that and just start enjoying our own lives. We need to realize what we are realistically capable of completing within a time frame, accept it, and get it done. And, as I read my feeds this week, it seems others are feeling the same way. So here are a three tips to get over the comparison slump, and start living our lives freely and true to ourselves.
Tip #1: Know the difference between comparison and inspiration. Dana from Wonder Forest put this so eloquently in her post this week. She says, "I don't want to confuse comparison with inspiration. I think it's pretty normal to be inspired by things we see and people we meet, but when that inspiration turns into comparison -- putting ourselves down and beating ourselves up because we are not like this ideal we have in our minds -- it becomes more than being inspired." Wow. That really makes you step back, take a look in the mirror, and realize that we don't need to completely rip ourselves apart for being humans with limits. She also included a pretty kick butt print that puts it all into perspective and is definitely worthy of Pinterest.
Tip #2: Don't try to do it all. Joy Cho from Oh Joy! is definitely an inspiration to me in so many ways. She is a mother, an entrepreneur, and a super creative, and I look up to her in so many ways. Oh, and did I mention that she always keeps it real. She doesn't try to sugar coat her life, and she tells it how it is. In her most recent post, she talks about not doing it all and shares her personal struggles and struggles of those around her. She also throws out the "L word" that makes all Type As cringe. (lazy..EEK!) But she doesn't make it seem like a bad thing. On the contrary, she embraces it and lets us all know that we need to relax and accept that we are all lazy in one way or another. So, it is time that we accept those areas and build up the areas in which we dominate!
Tip #3: Remember it's all a juggling act. I don't know if I have said before how much I love Sophie from The Private Life of a Girl, but just so you all know, I do! She is witty, creative, fun, and her writing style draws you in. She also has extremely helpful posts that make me think she is inside my head. Her recent post about juggling a business, a blog, and a busy life is realistic and does not talk down to you. She mentions the importance of setting boundaries for yourself...and sticking to them! This is a huge downfall of mine, as I always try to strive farther and am my own worst critic, which brings us to our next tip.
Tip #4: Don't be so hard on yourself. This can be a good thing, but it is crucial that we give ourselves constructive criticism just as would to others. We know that is isn't appropriate to berate others and make them feel ashamed of work on which they've spent hours, so why do we do that to ourselves? Sophie (same one from Tip #3) talks about this and how it specifically relates to creative types. She calls it "auto-critique" and discusses how it can be a good thing when harnessed correctly.
So, let's use these tips over the weekend, through the week, and hopefully, into the rest of our lives! Happy (comparison free) weekend!